What can you do if your relationship suffers from bed death?

It gets to a point in some relationships where one partner does not give in to intimacy. This leaves the other partner confused, angry, depressed, and experiencing a host of other feelings. Some partners may be understanding and patient at first but it gets to a point where they cannot help but become resentful.

This situation has been referred to as bed death. If your relationship is in this condition, what can you do to improve it? This article explores helpful suggestions on how you can help your relationship if it suffers from bed death.

What to do if your relationship suffers from bed death

Bed death is not the end of intimacy in your relationship. There are ways you can help the situation. Here are some of them:

Know the cause of the issue

Bed death is often the result of many situations ranging from medical to physical. Some people suffer from erectile dysfunction, high blood pressure, or HSDD. These conditions can lead to lack of interest in sexual intimacy. 

Physical reasons like tiredness, falling out of love, unresolved issues, and the troll of raising a family can also take effect on a couple’s intimacy. Knowing the reasons for bed death is a major step to solving it.

Communicate with your spouse

Communication is an essential aspect of an intimate relationship. Communicating your feelings and expectations to your partner can foster intimacy and restore your sexual enthusiasm. 

Discuss how often you would want to have sex. Talk about your desire for the sexual act and how you would like to spice it up. Your expectations may differ from that of your partner but that is where compromise comes in. With love and respect, you can find a common ground that meets each other’s needs.

Seek counseling and therapy

Sometimes, the solution to your diminishing sexual intimacy lies with counseling and therapy. With the help of a counselor, you can discover what is causing bed death and what can help it. 

If the cause of lack of sexual interest is due to trauma or other psychological effect, a counselor can be instrumental to solving the situation. If the bed death is due to personal issues and problems like unmet sexual needs and other barriers to intimacy, counseling can also help.

Spend more time together

In today’s world of 9 to 5 and the busy schedules of living, the time you spend together with your partner may diminish. But if you really want to revive your relationship from bed death, you need to make more effort to spend quality time together. 

Doing away with distractions is also helpful. For instance, instead of washing and cleaning after eating, spend some time over a glass of wine.

Opt for variety

In a committed romantic relationship, you will be seeing, living, and sleeping with the same person every day. Every week. Every month. Every year. Doing things differently will help to keep the spark and the bedroom lively. Whether you watch an adult movie together, or even visit a BDSM store, try to expand your horizons to different sexual experiences to reignite that spark. 

Aside from altering your sexual routine as much as it is convenient for you and your spouse, altering your routine in other areas of your life together can help. For instance, hanging out with mutual friends, going for vacation in new places, and other changes can help to remind you of the life you had before falling into a daily routine.

Conclusion

Most marriages experience bed death from time to time. Talking with your partner and finding common ground to meet each other’s needs is helpful for reigniting sexual intimacy. Speaking with a counsellor and seeking therapy is also helpful. You can also spend time together and may and alter your daily routine to upscale your sexual enthusiasm.